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Makings of a Date Night, Home Edition

Every Saturday night, the mister and I carve out some time just for us to reconnect as a couple. In the almost 20 years we've been together, we've found that in order to manage all of the stress and strains life pulls on a relationship, we need to section off time just for us. We say it all the time, but we really do put our marriage at the forefront of our family life. This has been a learning process for us, as in our early stages of parenthood, we were so rightfully consumed with raising the kids, that we kind of lost the sight and desire to work on our marriage. Throw in some life changing curve balls and let me tell you, we were challenged as a couple. We decided in order to make all of this work, we not only needed time as a couple, but time to ourselves to pursue our own interests, but that is another post. Stay focused. Saturdays....
Some Saturdays include a nice dinner out, drinks, the usual idea of a date. But others, are more low key like running errands at Home Depot or perusing the bookstore. This recent Saturday night was a relaxed night at home, complete with this amazing cheese and meat plate. For those interested the ingredients are: prunes, blue cheese, brie, olives, roasted radicchio with aioli for dipping, tomatoes, and salami. Adorable cheese board comes from Nordstroms Rack, on uber clearance for $4. Paired this with a delicious wine and it was marvelous.

Ended our evening on the new deck, complete with the large globe lights I've been dreaming about buying for months and the patio furniture I agonized over for even more months. Funny story: a neighbor was getting rid of this beautiful iron set and asked if we wanted it. What luck, right?!
My point is this, whether you cuddle on the couch in your jammies or bust out some high heels on the dance floor, make time for each other. Time is fleeting, your kids will be fine, we all need a break from time to time, and it is good for your soul as a couple to reconnect. Happy dating!

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